Guest Blog Series|DADDY DIARIES VOL I – Humanizing

Hey Family! I am so excited to have my husband, Barry join us here on SobeSavvy.com as a featured guest blogger! To quote Beyonce ‘s song BIGGER…Let mama let you know (let you know)
Mama’s just tryin’, I can’t get no days off
I don’t get no days off
Truly, I’m feelin’ it, I had to say that thing twice

BUT today, I am getting a day off…(well not really because it’s wash day and I am styling my daughter’s natural hair). Let’s just say while I am getting a day off from writing, my husband has offered to create content based on a Dad’s perspective. He has given so much support behind the scenes over the years on this blog as a photographer, interviewer (see the Heigh Five Interviews) , Co-editor and even has stepped in to attend an event as media on my behalf. I am truly grateful for him and hope you enjoy reading this new series called… “DADDY DIARIES” by Barry Heigh

Guest Blog Series | Daddy Diaries | SobeSavvy.com

8/30/11

During “our” pregnancy 9 years ago, I used to write a FaceBook series called “Daddy Diaries“. [ Click here to read the Prequel] I wrote about all the anxiety and excitement that pending dad hood presented. Would I be a good dad ? Would I be a great dad and provider?

Well it is due time for a 2020 update on how this parenthood thing has been going. Check back here monthly on my musings, observations and all around opinion on all things dad-girl related. Hope you enjoy my insight, love and light on my Dad experiences.

“Humanizing”

Over the years some people have given me the greatest compliment a man could hope for. “You are a great dad”. I agree. Parents know if they suck or are a great parent, anyone who says different is probably the former. I have been a father for over 9 years now and would like to think I have learned more than a few things.

There is no “book that comes with this thing” called parenthood so most dad’s do the best they know how. I had a great father but he was MY father and I was a boy. Being a girl-dad requires a bit different skill set. The fundamentals are the same just remixed. Instead of playing crash up with Mattel toy cars we sometimes chase butterflies. See what I mean?

Kids want stuff but what they really want is your attention and time. No adult who was set aside as a child would say they were glad they had all the newest toys and gadgets instead of an afternoon spent at the baseball game with dad eating hot dogs and popcorn. Time is the ultimate luxury, so my wife and I are VERY intentional in spending so much directed attention time WITH Ava and FOR Ava.

I think I excel at humanizing myself to her more and at a earlier age than either one of my parents. Probably because as a older parent I have the beauty of realizing how swift and quick our limited time here on earth can and is going to be. ” I used to do that too at your age” is something Ava hears at least once a week from me. It reassures her she is not doing something weird or wrong. Whether when she just eats the icing off of a cupcake and just leaves the cake or gets caught with a candy wrapper underneath her blanket. I truly think a child should see all the faults and imperfections in adults at a early stage so no one ever can present themselves to her as a savior or a saint.

So that’s it for this rebirth of my Daddy Diaries. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments below!

Later Y’all.

4 thoughts on “Guest Blog Series|DADDY DIARIES VOL I – Humanizing

  1. Sharon Ray says:

    What a beautiful depiction of the daddy-daughter world…and I have seen it first hand and now through your eyes and on paper! You are a great husband and an even greater dad! Keep doing what you’re doing, and thank you for getting the story out!

  2. I agree, we all need to be imperfect examples to our children. I struggled with perfectionism for a long time. It wasn’t until I hit my 30’s that I completely let go. My limiting beliefs kept me stuck and I definitely don’t want that for my children.

    • SobeSavvy says:

      You bring up a good point about age. I was age 37/38 when I had her and hubby was turning 41, so being older may have helped to not have limiting beliefs.

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